The Gift of Time and Presence

With only a few days left this year, it seems like there are a million things to do with little time to do it. Thankfully, my wife takes on the majority of the planning, prepping, and executing of our holiday celebrating, but I am still exhausted come January 1st. Why do I start off many new years feeling overextended? Why do some people start the new year over budget or stressed from the holidays? According to experts, Americans report:

• 62% feeling stressed during the holidays
• $1,536 spent on gifts
• 20% are in debt up to $720 from buying gifts

These questions and statistics got me thinking on how to improve my holiday experience, and I decided to focus on giving more time and my full presence.

My children

I work long hours so it is hard for me to spend time with my sons. On top of that, I am often working from home, so my sons know I am physically here, but I am still in work mode with checking my emails and texts, and therefore, I am not present. My wife points out when our youngest acts out around me, it is his way of getting my attention. While it is negative attention, it is better than no attention. With their upcoming winter break, I am going to spend quality time with them. Even if it is just playing a game on their new PS4 that Santa is bringing them, I will be there. When they are older, are they going to remember the gifts of 2019, or the time and experiences their father spent with them?

My Grandmother

I have vivid and loving memories of my time with my four grandparents during the holidays, and now, my only living grandparent is 91 years old. Despite her being in good health, I know my time with her is getting shorter and shorter. Our upcoming family holiday gathering is filled with over 40 adults and children, and I plan to take extra time to sit and chat with her. When you have lived to see 91, you do not need more gifts, but more time with loved ones.

My wife

My wife is the glue that holds our family together. Honestly, I do not know what we would do without her. She works incredibly hard to bring love, light, and magic to the holiday season for our entire family – which she loves doing, but it can’t be easy. Although we do not traditionally exchange gifts, I plan to shower her with appreciation, hugs, and support. Because I am driven and ambitious with my business, I forget to give her this time and admiration she so deserves.

My clients

I dedicate most of my time to my clients and future clients. Given I am blessed to do my life’s passion, it does not feel like work when I am with my clients. I want to thank my clients for giving me their gift of time to meet with me, get to know me, and trust in me to guide them to their best financial situations by understanding what is the most important to them.

Given life’s demands, I think it is fair to say we all could improve on giving quality time to those important to us now and in the upcoming year. Memories last much longer than any hot toy of 2019 or the newest must-have tech device. Life is short, the holidays go by quickly, and there is a reason for the season. Gifts are wonderful, but I encourage you to truly immerse yourself with the spirit of the holidays and with those you love.

In addition, JP Williams is the Founder of Pillar Wealth Group who lives and works near Columbus, Ohio. JP founded Pillar Wealth Group with over 17 years of experience and specializes in financial planning, retirement planning, investment management, risk management, college planning, and estate planning. Contact us today to get started with your financial wellness journey. Contact us today to schedule an introductory meeting!